The morning we left Atlanta, we got to speak with a young woman who is currently doing Autism research with Emory University. In addition to having an academic interest in Autism, she has a younger sister who is on the spectrum. She was sweet, intelligent, and compassionate and her story provided us with some new perspectives.
I’ve noticed that so many sibs are more compassionate and understanding than the average individual. Their siblings have taught them to appreciate every person’s abilities. Many sibs have also told us they’ve been called “old souls” in the past and often feel more mature than others their age.
She is a first generation immigrant – her parents are both from China – and she explained that for a long time, her father didn’t believe in Autism. They tried many different therapies and diets in an effort to “cure” their daughter of Autism and often pointed out that if she worked hard enough, she could make her autistic tendencies go away. She took it upon herself to show her parents that Autism is a real diagnosis, sifting through blog posts and scientific articles that could teach her more about her sister’s disorder.
Her sister was diagnosed at a later age, just before middle school, and as a result, our interviewee is interested in research related to infants, early intervention, and early diagnosis. She studied psychology as an undergrad, but is reluctant to become a clinician for the fear that her patients’ stories will hit too close to home. Instead she is pursuing a research-focused degree in developmental psychology and hopes to make a positive impact on individuals and families that way.
She mentioned that her strong academic drive results from her ability to appreciate the abilities she has that her sister does not. Like many sibs we’ve spoken to, she didn’t want to feel as if she wasn’t taking advantage of her intelligence and opportunities.
She is very close with her family, despite the challenges and family conflicts that have resulted from her sister’s diagnosis. She received her undergraduate degree at UC Berkeley in order to stay close to home, and after several years in Atlanta, she is going back to California for graduate school. Her other sister is abroad in China, but she said when they do have family time, they hang out like any other siblings would.